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Riding with a Friend is Good for your Health!

Published: 4/26/2011
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Editor's Note:
Sometimes, it's tempting to relegate any forwarded email immediately to Trash.
But once in a while, I'll get a gem.
My apologies to the author - no name was posted.

I just finished taking an evening class at Stanford. The last lecture was on the mind-body connection - the relationship between stress and disease.
The speaker (head  of psychiatry at Stanford) said, among other things, that one of the best things that a man could do for his health is to be married
to a woman.
For a  woman, one of the best things she could do for
her health was to nurture her relationships with her girlfriends.

At first everyone laughed, but he was serious.

Women connect with each other differently and provide support systems that
help each other to deal with stress and difficult life experiences.
Physically this quality “girlfriend time" helps us to create more serotonin
- a neurotransmitter that helps combat depression and can create a general
feeling of well being.  Women share feelings whereas men often form
relationships around activities.
They rarely sit down with a  buddy and

talk about how they feel about certain things or how their personal lives are going. Jobs? Yes. Sports? Yes. Cars? Yes. Fishing, hunting, golf? Yes.
But their feelings? Rarely.

Women do it all of the time. We share from our souls with our friends/sisters/mothers, and evidently that is very good for our health.  He said
that spending time with a friend is just as important to our general health as jogging or working out at a gym.

There's a tendency to think that when we are "exercising" we are doing
something good for our bodies, but when we are hanging out with friends, we
are wasting our time and should be more productively engaged — not true. In
fact, he said that failure to create and maintain quality personal
relationships with other humans is as dangerous to our physical health as

So every time you hang out with a gal pal, just pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself for doing something good for your health!
We are indeed very, very lucky. So, let's toast to our friendship with our girlfriends. Evidently it's very good for our health."

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4/26/2011 Debi
This is a wonderful article. And, so very true! My boyfriend and I share a great relationship, however, I always tell him that I need "girl time" with my friends. I'm fortunate that my best-friend is also a cowgirl, so we get to ride together while we discuss all the emotional stuff, etc. Thanks for sharing this article with all of us! Happy Trails and Girlfriend time...
4/26/2011 Christine
This is so true and I enjoyed reading it coming from others who feel the same way I do about friendships being good for the soul...if you got a good friend soup keep it alive and real
4/27/2011 Kim Stone
Great reminder Maddy! Having experienced this on many levels I couldn't agree more. Friendships, deep friendships that encompass our lives, friendships that only last for short periods ~ some that are a continuous thread from childhood long into elder good for us! Thanks for an uplifting article.
7/8/2013 Marian
Where does leave all the happily married male gay couples I wonder??

"Those who look down eventually get there" - Kip Rosenthal